“Whatcha doing this Valentine’s Day?”…..this is the annual question I get asked by most & sundry near about 14th Feb.
Well this year my response is probably one of the whackiest I can give “Nothing much – I’m getting married” And as I stand back & get a kick out of the questioner’s reaction, the devil in me laconically smirks & reminds me “Princess nice to see you enjoying their reaction – but are you sure the ultimate joke is not on you” !!!!!! :)
Pffff ……why oh why is the devil in me usually so true. As I stand on the brink of changing from single to better half, there are a zillion thoughts, which run, gallop & do the salsa in my mind.
For one – why does “single” have such a nice jingle to it…and why does being married reduce you to half (albeit a better one). Uhhh ok, I’ve heard umpteen marriage jokes from the same set of “most & sundry”…and have figured out that the other sex would mumble “atleast you fancy yourself as a half, we usually are finished when we get married !!!”
Hehehehe…..with my future based on such juxtaposes, and many other concepts, this Valentine Day tryst seems one hell of a roller coaster ride.
Some of the concepts read like –
The Friends in law Concept – you know, this concept of his friends feeling that I’ve got a lucky break & my friends thinking similar of him. I get a boost seeing how my friends feel that I’m way too better for any man on earth, and the to be spouse is constantly judged in that light & attempted to be educated accordingly. …….But then I suddenly realize, so is the same for the opposite camp….after all according to them, I’m shades paler to their friend.
Friends will after all be friends :-))
The Pati, patni aur woh Concept – aha…the mysterious “woh”…In our case it translates into pati, patni aur Wo(h)rk………..yup “Work” – the one responsible for taking up most of our attention & time. Until we realize that conscious effort is needed to ward of the charms of seductor/seductress called work.
The We are the Universe Concept – Ok, I’ve heard this Men are from Mars & Women from Venus thingy from time immemorial…..and all of it seems so easy & the perfect explanation for all that cannot be explained when Martians & Venus residents interact…..But then sudden bursts of soul speak remind me that at the end of it both Mars & Venus belong to the same solar system. So some things have just gottta be adjusted to fit into the same universe. I, me, myself has to probably merge into us, we, couple…..I don’t know what !!!!
And as I tie myself up securely to enter into the fantastic roller coaster ride, I know the journey’s gonna be anything but staid….we’ll be hurtling at breakneck speed most times, be stopped upside down in mid air, travel through all the twists and turns of an adventurous coaster………
But still hope for a win-win game....... Guess why? B’cos it’s a fantastic team we’re dependant upon –
Super coaches who know us through & through & advise accordingly – ie parents
Buddy team members – our siblings with their bit of street smart support & understanding
Fantastic cheer leaders – ie friends who egg us on & spread the cheer in each of our endeavours.
So, as I tie up for Valentine’s Day, I cant help but let out a loud “Yipppe here I come” !!!!!
4 comments:
Nondini..i am sure the memory of this year's Valentine's Day will be etched in your thoughts forever....It is going to be a Grand Day.....A Brand New beginning to ur life...Just shoo away all those nagging questions from ur mind...they are absolutely of no importance whatsoever,they aren't worth it.....I will make sure you dont have a negative bone in ur body....I can foresee a future full of love,happiness and peace for both of u...........and trust me God will make sure my prediction stands true.
First of all... congrats once again:)
I wish you both a very happy married life:)
and yeh baby wot r u doin on dis vlentine's day;):P
Guess this beautiful vlentine day would be a memory to cherish:)
And oh so cool! I loved the concepts :D
Friends in law Concept :D
d pati patni n wOrk:D
we n d universe:D
yipppie!
Hoping to have ur post-marriage post soon dearie... God Bless ya!
Heyyy Babyy !!!...Ji lene de is pal ko, kal ki sochenge kal ko !!......C'mon, Cheers & Congrats Babes !!!....Yes, All Best Wishes for this Most Thrilling stretch of Life's roller-coaster ride. I'm sure with u'r understanding, maturity & all bench support, its gonna be an exciting journey & may you enjoy every moment of it !!!...& what best day to begin it with ???....Wow !!!....not only this V'day, but all V'days here on get tagged on with U, queenie !!!....Live it up U'r style & shine on !!!....cant wait to see u'r post wedding pics & write-ups, but no rush, enjoy u'r time, feel loved & stay blessed always !!!.....
Though I agree with Neel and Ria and also wish you the same... Would just warn you on one thing that I read once... "Don't expect marriage to be a solution to all your questions'... I don't mean there are problems in your life or something like that...
I just mean that, unknowingly, in subconscious mind, we all, particularly women, have many expectations, from this biggest change in their lives... But one needs to understand that it's not all roses all the way... The adjusting and unexpected incidences and experiences will shatter the mind if not prepared well...
This is not a negative or discouraging comment... It just mean to say that be prepared for unfavorable happenings also... Sometimes they might be shocking too... One needs to compromise with the situation, let go on the other person and try to be at peace in such situation...
In fact, all relationships - including mother and a new born baby - needs SOME time to get settled down... this time may vary from 3 month to 3 years... It just needs TIME... Only the love and willingness of both will help in the same...
Hope I haven't said too much and too negative... I think we need someone to say this in beginning to cop up with new challenges... After that "life is beautiful when you are holding someone you love"... :-) and then THIS relationship becomes the most important and close one... overtaking all other... Then one person defines everything from Husband to lover, friend, father, guide, patient listener and don't laugh at it but brother too... :-)
Ok ok now will stop my fundas here...!!!
Be happy as you always are... :-)
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